Another “You’ve Got To Be Kidding”
John Rosemond is my all-time favorite advice columnist. His by-line appears in our Saturday paper. He writes parenting advice that is full of common (or rather uncommon) sense. Nine times out of ten, he tells the anxious parent to stop trying to be a friend to their child and trying to reason with a child. He has repeatedly told parents to suck it up and start acting like parents instead of their child’s bff.
In today’s paper, he followed up on a column he wrote some time ago about parents who are Just Plain Nuts. Included in this category are those who spend $5000 on their darling’s first birthday party, those who replace expensive phones and other electronics when they are lost or destroyed by the child, and those who lavish the little vermin with expensive clothes, cars and whatnot rather than making the time and taking the effort to discipline the child.
His candidate today for JPN was the parent who called the principal of her 5-year-old’s school (very expensive private school) to complain about the teacher who would not let her precious sing her favorite nursery rhyme out loud at any time that the child pleased. The mother confronted the teacher and the principal and demanded that the child be given permission to disrupt the class at will.
On the other hand, Rosemond offers another JPN where the parents may not be nuts, but someone surely is. Two parents in Maryland allowed their 10 year old son and 6 year old daughter to walk home alone from a local park – a walk of less than a mile. The kids were spotted by “local parenting vigilantes” (his term and I love it) who called the police and child protective services. Child Protective Services (“aka the Parenting Gestapo” – again his term and again I love it) threatened to take the children into custody if the parents do not submit to an intrusive investigation and promise, in writing, not to allow the children to be unsupervised for even a few minutes while the investigation is on-going.
Yes, there is a time and a place for Child Protective Services. But this? This is JUST PLAIN NUTS.